Mind Matters

Long Suffering

How long is long suffering? 

Suffering is allowing hardship, pain or a distressing situation, but how much suffering should one allow before the line is drawn? Patiently tolerating suffering is considered long suffering. I cannot help thinking of longsuffering in relationships, especially in marriage, where it is not uncommon for one spouse to be more tolerant than the other, and enduring hardship for what may be considered an unduly prolonged period. Where and when is suffering long enough and a line need be drawn?


When the purpose of an object, person, relationship or anything is not defined, abuse is often inevitable! The challenge therefore, not uncommonly in relationships, is boundaries not being defined or ill-defined. An employee’s duties is clarified in a contract to avoid abuse and/or exploitation by either party. Any relationship that will stand the test of time needs clear boundaries to ensure mutual respect and avoid abuse in any form, no matter how sweetly packaged.


Respect recognises every one has weaknesses, we are all work in progress’ striving to be better as best we know. Mutual respect therefore makes allowance for the other’s weakness, whilst encouraging the areas of strength. Tolerating weakness should however not be to the extent of allowing abuse, and detrimental acts to anyone’s well being.    Leslie Vernick gives deep insight on boundaries in relationships and drawing the line between long suffering, healthy tolerance and abuse.

By Wonuola

It looked like it would be the perfect dream, starting life on acres of green pasture, evening walks on the farm inhaling fresh clean air! The scenes started to change like a movie being fast forwarded and precious moments seemed uncaptured till gone, not to return. I started learning to cherish life, the greatest gift above all things! I needed more, so I sought the source and got to know it came from Love and with it was always freedom! The rapidly changing scenes, with years speeding by, have been stormy and sometimes still, bright and grey, with highs and low! I have found meaningful living is not determined by circumstances but rather by what goes on within. The juice in the heart powers the body, its activities and interactions. Love gives life and powers living, with freedom expressing life. I remain passionate about a journey with life, love and liberty and hopefully encouraging others to do the same, living purposefully and leading in liberty. #LoveLifeLiberty

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