Embracing kindness and excitement at kind acts, is deemed a normal response. There are times however, when gestures of kindness are turned down for various reasons.
Beware of hidden agenda!
I love the Nigerian phrase “shine your eye!” Kindness has been known to be shown by people with evil motives. Well presented persons coming to the rescue of people in vulnerable situations then kidnapping them for a ransom. Children have been known to be abducted by warming up to strangers giving them goodies. Not uncommon these days, is grooming of young people by extreme acts of kindness, only to be sexually exploited, radicalised or recruited into drug dealing schemes.
Vulnerable / Traumatized recipients: Acts of kindness may be turned down if wrongly perceived to be contrary. This has been known to happen where there’s emotional injury and perception of good is altered. Like a visual impairment, kindness is seen as wickedness, an offer of a meal for instance, deemed as an attempt to poison, due to recollection of a past traumatic event, still unresolved. In the same token, past trauma should not prevent one from missing out on true kindness.
Attempts to control is not an uncommon reason for kindness being shown. This is usually by people pre-occupied with their own agenda and theirs alone. The detriment to others to them is irrelevant, the only focus is that which they seek to obtain. Their focus may be so subtle, may be just feeling powerful with being in control. Innocent victims may therefore be less discerning when the true reason for the kindness is not apparent.
It is important to appreciate kindness, but more important not to be simple minded, noting evil intentions are oft well packaged to ensure blindness!