Wealth Is Health

Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? For riches certainly build themselves wings; they fly away as an eagle toward the heavens. Proverbs 23:5
Walking in the principles of wealth creation has been described as an exciting journey, with valuable lessons, sometimes painful, that empower in making wiser decisions. 

A simple way to remember 5 principles described in “The Richest Man in Babylon” is the discipline of SMILE

1. Save at least 10% of your income. It may help to reflect on how much has come in in the past 5years and how much has been saved from it. Ouch! Thinking of the savings from the past year’s income may just be as painful….hmmm. Everyone else gets paid besides the one who earned it! Pay yourself first , SAVE! 

2. Make your money (savings) work for you. Put your money to work and let it serve you! This is multiplying your savings to get the most from it! 

3. Invest in what you know! Don’t rely on someone else’s knowledge without your understanding what your money is being put into! Many fingers have been burnt and valuable assets lost by relying solely on a “good friend’s” knowledge in an area of investment. Know your own tools. 

4. Learn from wise men/ experts to invest. This helps to protect your money.

5. Emotions can be misleading! Easy come, easy go! If it’s too good to be true, It probably is!

Money management is more important than having money! Understanding the principles of money is an important part of being wealthy! Wealth is being healthy spiritually, physically and mentally, with the manifestation of holistic health including generating valuable assets and healthy relationships.

Having money is not being wealthy! A healthy read is “Money won’t make you rich” by Sunday Adelaja. 

It is health that is real wealth, and not pieces of gold and silver. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Wealth is Health! 

Long Suffering

How long is long suffering? 

Suffering is allowing hardship, pain or a distressing situation, but how much suffering should one allow before the line is drawn? Patiently tolerating suffering is considered long suffering. I cannot help thinking of longsuffering in relationships, especially in marriage, where it is not uncommon for one spouse to be more tolerant than the other, and enduring hardship for what may be considered an unduly prolonged period. Where and when is suffering long enough and a line need be drawn?

Purpose

When the purpose of an object, person, relationship or anything is not defined, abuse is often inevitable! The challenge therefore, not uncommonly in relationships, is boundaries not being defined or ill-defined. An employee’s duties is clarified in a contract to avoid abuse and/or exploitation by either party. Any relationship that will stand the test of time needs clear boundaries to ensure mutual respect and avoid abuse in any form, no matter how sweetly packaged.

Tolerance 

Respect recognises every one has weaknesses, we are all work in progress’ striving to be better as best we know. Mutual respect therefore makes allowance for the other’s weakness, whilst encouraging the areas of strength. Tolerating weakness should however not be to the extent of allowing abuse, and detrimental acts to anyone’s well being.    Leslie Vernick gives deep insight on boundaries in relationships and drawing the line between long suffering, healthy tolerance and abuse.

Responsible

Responsible stems from the word “response”, and means having the ability to make a response. It does not however state if the response made is healthy or detrimental. It is generally assumed that the response is sound, whenever a person is assessed as responsible.

This brings to mind the cockroach theory, a story forwarded to me with the author unknown:

Sent as received:

Have you heard of the…

**** Cockroach management Theory?

I just did and thought it worthy to share with you☺

“A beautiful speech by *Sundar Pichai – an IIT-MIT Alumnus now Google boss.

*The cockroach management theory for self development*

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but …it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

*_It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies._*

*I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.*

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

*More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.*

Lessons learnt from the story:

*I understood, I should not react in life.*

*I should always respond*

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand…………LIFE.

A Person who is HAPPY is happy not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

*He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!

*RESPOND TO ISSUES DON’T ~REACT~*and keep winning..👌

End of sent mail.

Average

Fish move in schools, cattle go as herds, ants as army troops, humans do the same. Teenagers are not peculiar, in this longing for acceptance and going with the flow, with a sense of not belonging, judged by not having trendy shoes or clothes.

Each human being is however unique, with a specific purpose to be on earth, like a piece of jigsaw that can’t take the place of another! Fulfilment is finding that role and living it to the fullest! A fulfilled life is not following the herd, not being average!

 

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Being average is not optimising one’s potential. Daring to be different is stretching to greater heights!

Don’t settle for less, aim for God’s best, being all you have been created to be! No one can do that which only you can do!

Stress Less

My yoke is easy and my burden is light.

One would expect a burden to be heavy. N’est pas? A God given one is though said to be light. Does this imply if the burden is crushing it is not appropriate for the carrier. Even a donkey is not meant to be destroyed by its duties! 

Hmmm……

I had been anxious through the day, had a payment dead line to meet by close of business the next day else various complications were bound to follow…

I struggled to focus all day, then all night could not sleep till early hours of the next morning! All day my head pounded, anxiety took over in an unbelievable way, all I kept doing was sighing helplessly. Usually I would have thought: what is the worst that can happen?, and would have imagined the worst, confronted it mentally after which it never even happened. Why was this do hard to deal with? My consolation was God could see my pain and His love for me was unchanging even if my unwise decisions had left me in a mess! 

Wow! A few hours to the time I gave up! I was not even going to try and sort it out. I would let go of fear and anxiety and let the worst happen. I would take life a day at a time, moment by moment. 

It was unbelievable! The moment I let go ideas flooded in, resolving the matter incredibly!! I felt light hearted as other thoughts for the future were consolidated. I really could have danced all night! I was now so excited and relieved that I struggled to sleep for joy of the weight lifted, despite being tired from the previous night.

It dawned on me I had burdened myself by taking on responsibilities beyond my capabilities! The burden was not Godly else it would be light.

Let go and let God! 

Purpose

The monkey swung fast, from branch to branch, giggling, jiggling, leaping swiftly! It was having the time of its life, happy in the face of danger! It was literally in the tiger’s face, teasing, taunting, dangling one limb then another, within easy reach of the drooling tiger’s mouth, then swift as only a mischievous monkey can, the limb was whisked out of the tiger’s reach, and almost immediately, the monkey would leap away, only to start the tease -taunt cycle again. Crazy? Yes! Yet, such confidence, for the monkey was safe in its part of the natural habitat, and skilled in that which he was designed to do!

Laughing in the face of danger!!

A dolphin at sea would not surprisingly be ecstatic, but not a monkey! Every being belongs in the environment designed for it, humans no different. Seasons may require environmental changes and staying in the wrong place in any season could be very hazardous!

Peace in the fiercest storm

An elderly lady once told me how with her husband they experienced indescribable peace, riding on the open back of a truck with bullets flying about at repeated near miss, whilst doing missionary work in Botswana. She recalled the deep rooted and unshakeable confidence of being in the right place at the right time, in spite of life threatening danger. Such peace!

Life Purpose.

Living purposefully doubtless gives indescribable peace, inexplicable to the the world’s apparent measuring standards of success or happiness. The path to determining one’s purpose is to follow one’s passion!

Don’t swing on trees when your whole being is craving a swim in the deep blue sea!

Develop, exercise and enjoy your healthy passions, the key to purpose in life!

Love Divine

Love that will not let me go…The hymn that stuck to my heart for two weeks till October 7, 2014…

Suddenly it made sense why I had not ben able to get this hymn out of my head for so long. Had to check up the lyrics so many times, till that day on Oct7, when my heart kept screaming “No man Lord!”

Grateful for Love Divine……❤️

Jesus Christ, I am thankful you will never let me go, through all the changing scenes of life. The King of Love indeed my Shepherd is! Love divine all love excelling! Love that will not let me go…….🙏🏽

The Pilot

I would hate to be a pilot and suddenly have s passenger struggling with me for control. The result is likely going to be fatal. 

My father often said “every man is the architect of his own fortune”. Indeed, one’s present state is the result of past choices, regardless of influence by others or circumstances! 

A BETTER FUTURE REQUIRES BETTER CHOICES….

Control of one’s affairs is taking ownership of responses to what life brings or offers, that is being “response-able”, otherwise known as responsibility. Life is in seasons, sometimes there are storms. Staying in control and not allowing fear, panic or anxiety to take over empowers one to be able to respond appropriately and win in life’s battles. No storm lasts forever.

This too shall come to pass!!!

Stress Less

Looking for something and getting all worked up is not an uncommon experience, only to find it in the most conspicuous place! My children laugh when I start looking for my reading glasses as they point out, “mum it’s on your head!” I have looked for it whilst I had it on!


Too often we drop some balls when we take on too many to juggle. Unfortunately the dropped balls may be the most important ones!! The planned activity has not started and the key balls are lost, frustration sets in, compounding underlying anxiety!  Joy is lost, fear gains more room, despair gets bigger- all for biting more than one can chew. Those we had hoped to care for are abandoned as the pressing need becomes managing distress before things get even worse.

One day at a time is not a bad idea!!

Taking on more than one is designed for is  stressful to the emotional and mental muscles, and detrimental to one’s whole well being!

FEAR NOT AND STRESS LESS!


 

The Dream

The Dream…Martin Luther King’s “I have a dream” is an inspiration to many. Indeed his relatively short lived life is seen to be purposeful, with a goal achieved, enviable in that he lived and died for a defined purpose. Life for many will probably be more meaningful could the reason for existence be identified and pursued.

A duck on land can be imagined not to be as happy as when wading in a river: a picture of no cares, as it drifts carried by the force of the water, seemingly living for what it was designed. Same bird dare not fly as other feathered fellows, who soar to heights unimaginable , where they find their fulfilment, fully filled with the joy of their existence as they live the life for which they were designed.

Human existence may be seen in much the same way. While some people are excited with learning and increasing in knowledge in a particular area of life, others detest the concentration required to imbibe information from comprehensive lengthy texts, yet find fulfilment in hands on creativity , designing fascinating architecture, furniture and amazing variety of fashionable apparels and whatever their minds dare to imagine. Creativity could therefore be manifest in aesthetics or we may enjoy the benefits of intellectualism in various ways. The benefits of various giftings harmonizing to make the world a better place, to the delightful fulfillment of the originators.

Well, rather happily be a duck in water than an eagle on water, or a fish in the sea than a fish on a tree. The question then is, “who am I?”, “what have I been designed to be?” These questions are best answered by soul searching responses to, “what positive activity brings me joy?” “what would I do happily, if all I had was being alive with a lifetime ahead and unlimited resources in every way imaginable?” Some have said “travel round the world”. The questions asked are after you have seen it all, you are young and energetic, with decades of years ahead, and all the tme available everyday- what would you be excited to do with your life time?


What’s my 10?

Life could be rated on a scale of 0-10. Zero being the worst life could be and 10 being blissful, could not be better in any way whatsoever. Some say 10 is unrealistic, what then is 9 0r maybe 8?

Now….

The starting point to any destination is identifying where one is now, as a navigator would request. Where on the 0-10 scale is one currently located? Identifying the starting point helps to know what routes there are to destination. The fastest route is not always the best, neither is the shortest route. The fastest route may be healthier for someone very energetic, and the delays on the slower route may be the exercise for developing patience for someone who is always in a hurry. In order to stay on course in spite of the challenges the journey to a specified destination, it is best to identify the healthiest route for each person. An active person aiming at a healthier lifestyle may require diet modification to get to 9 on a journey to a healthier body, whilst someone else may require more exercise.


ACT – Action Changes Things. Aiming at nothing gets nothing!

The starting point is identified, the goal has been defined, the route is known, what happens next? The journey of a thousand miles is said to start with the first step. Whatever the reservations, take the first step. Refuse to be anxious about the duration of the journey. Every step gets you closer to destination. Pre-occupation with what needs to be done rather than taking action will not get one closer, once the goal is defined and the route planned. The route may be changed at some point in the journey should obstacles come up. From current position what needs now be done is that first step
Let’s get started!

Bon voyage!!!

Wonuola