Free Spirit

The Shining Light

It came to my window every night, this shining little light. It wasn’t like another star and was strange to my sight.

This so distant small bright light, high up in the sky, stood out so dinstinctly, it was a bright white light. Sometimes it showed up with the moon and sometimes all alone, shining through my night.

Initially I did not dare tell ayone, no family or friend, thinking they might suggest I must be seeing things and undue concerns for my mind.

Living in Light…

It seemed to be a special sign, showing up for me, and was so vividly there each time I went to bed. Sometimes it showed up much earlier and lingered in daylight, finally I showed my children and sister this very special light. It felt so precious to my heart it’s light so near to me.

Some more checks with Google’s help, I found it was Venus, showing up in April months: the second brightest object in the night sky, second to the moon. Called the day star, the evening star and also morning star.

I had never noticed it, in decades here on earth or probably disregarded it in the hurriedness of life. The lockdown slowing my living pace had helped me stop and see, this very special star for the first time ever!

Wonders abounding all around, easily may be missed, with getting caught in life’s drama and drained by its demands. I am thankful for the mighty works of God and also thankful too, for the chance to see His awesomeness so dear and near to me.

#Gratitude #Thankfulness #Lockdownjoys

What are you thankful for today?

Free Spirit


Delusions are said by shrinks to be beliefs that are false, unfounded and fixed, seeing things for what they really aren’t, convinced against the reality.

The deluded therefore will without doubt, take steps and acts out of the ‘norm’ unfortunately may harm others and self too, going beyond borders of what is true as tools for good are wrongly used.

The lack of insight makes it harder for the view is different with this mind disorder. Help is needed to fix the mind’s eye and the healing time therefore may take a while. Support for life with healthy links is a great help.

Embracing a lie for selfish gain, is not a delusion in any way! And rather a choice to grandeurize self to the detriment of others that are determined not to matter!

Stinking thinking begets revolting living. Illusions of power allowed in depriving others of life, love and freedom is the paving of a sure path to self destruction!

Delusion or illusion?

Lies clutch the heart with shackles unseen, when truth which frees is disregarded: tightening, choking, forming callous, till the confused mind deprived of life, bears fruits of deceit with forceful acts, depriving others of life and love and liberty!

These ill ideas when it’s of power, forgets the hour when friends will gather and the body at which men once cowered, is showered as ashes or put in a container or down below it may be lowered.

Preoccupied with power and not the good of any other, many have come and gone, some yet to be born. Like Pharaoh, Hitler and religious leaders, It’s still ongoing this wielding towers – institutions, corporations organisations, various covers. All run by humans, oh! the chance will not be forever…There is only one Power that is forever… #Truthlives #GeorgeFloyd #BlackLivesMatter

What is truth? What illusions have I embraced as “truth”?

Free Spirit

Warning Signs

Mind your mind

The journey is long, the body weary, there’s a deep longing to get to destination quickly. The body says stop, I need to rest, a thought says keep going, you can do it! The voice of tiredness is disregarded, the urge to carry on allowed to rule, in spite of quieter thoughts that safety limits have been exceeded. Signals disregarded may cause avoidable harm!

The amber light comes on, a thought says just a little more. The light goes red, anxiety increases, fear follows, the risk of significant harm escalates and some parts of body or life gets damaged. Other innocent parties may also come to harm…unfortunately sometimes irreversibly. How far should one stop stretching before it gets harmful?

Keeping an eye on health indicators, helps prevent breakdown, physically, mentally and emotionally. “Mind your mind” is often said, and this will help in minding one’s life! Feeling tired, irritability, excessive eating, headaches, declining productivity may be some signs the body’s battery needs recharging or some oil need topping? Know your capacity, know your limitations!

Warning signs begin to flash when reserves start running low. The body may flash amber before it goes red and comes to a stop! Keep your mind healthy, mind your mind to take good care of your life.

What are your warning signs to stop and refuel?

Free Spirit


The bright sunlight rays danced on her head, slowly forming a beam that lit up her face into a welcoming smile, “my name is trust“. I smiled back politely unable to reply spontaneously. I struggled not to chuckle, tickled by the thought of the strange name! Strange to me, but mine apparently not to her. She had met people from everywhere.

My precious friends, unknown to me, had arranged help for my trip. “Why would anyone name their child trust?” I kept thinking to myself. Trust was focused on her given task, and not as easily distracted as moi! She stretched out her hand across the ditch, offering to help me over, “We have a long journey ahead”. I thanked her, securing my grip in her hand, leaping across to her hug on the other side.

There were many, more ditches ahead, the journey planner had said. Having Trust seemed like a great help, as I was getting tired! She introduced me a few minutes later to her brother, truth, who owned the ‘chalet’ we were to stay in for the next few days. I thought again, his name is strange!

We drove through, wide smooth roads lined with dated palm trees, the fronds shimmering with a homely green. Wide open, tall, sturdy metal gates led us to scores of cheerful looking uniformed guards. I wondered what the gates were made of. I was awestruck by this picture of opulence and authority, mixed with joy and air of peace!

Meeting trust and truth was rousing more excitement! As the last blobs of energy drained from my mind all I could think was trust? truth? Trust truth… till consciousness lost its grip…

Free Spirit

The Hose

It jerked back and forth, twisted side to side 
It needed to be still, for the water to flow right
It curled up some more, the direction was lost
It’s contents of no benefit to the needy plants.

The plants kept dying, the garden looked parched
though there was a hose, with water supply. 
And each time the gardener attempted to work 
this hose came alive doing its own thing, frustrating his work.

The hose appeared determined to sabotage the purpose it was designed for,
prancing everywhere, except where it ought
redirecting the water where it ought not go!

Asked by the tap to which it was attached 
“Why dear hose do you fret much so?” 
It replied, “I am trying to help, so cannot be still,
 for fear that a beautiful garden may never, never be.”

The fear in you is destroying the work, 
the master plan may seem to be taking so long.
All that’s required is you be still and calmLet the gardener hold and determine where the water flows.

You fret and twist, you fear and scream, 
apparently determined to do it your way. 
Not knowing the end, you can’t choose the way.
Be still dear hose, let the water flow to plan.

The plants are parched, the garden is bare, 
Lifeless it appears, with no thriving plants.
If you’ll be still the water will flow right
You’ll have the best garden just as the Master planned!


Free Spirit

My First Friends

Arrival was exciting! Lots of unknown faces and voices chattering joyfully. It was surprising that seeing me could stir so much delight, especially since most of the people were much older. There were a few familiar voices, from conversations in the past months, one voice I recognised had spoken with me daily, night and day before I arrived!

The fussing continued, intensifying for the next few months, lots of fancy presents, plenty of food, encouraging words and offers to help with daily chores in various ways. Wow! This sure was a good place to be. I wasn’t lacking for healthy attention, and got most of it from the two people with me most of the time, especially, mamma, my food supplier! Shhh… she made sure my sleep time was well protected.

The fussing began to dwindle, but not from mamma. She seemed to know what I needed even before I asked. I had no reason to worry, her responses well-timed, she was always accessible and attentive in every way.

So, going on with my journey, I had the main building blocks: faith, hope and love, to cope with varying seasons. Sometimes the weather got real stormy, and I was strengthened by lessons learnt. I would recall, “it’s for a season so don’t be shaken, this will surely come to pass!” There were many other lessons and various nutrients too, that empowered my mind and strengthened my spirit, to help me carry on!

My journey on earth had started with God given carers, the best tour guides for me, who helped me fare well to be strong on my own and be there for others too! Parents are a child’s first friends.

Free Spirit


The capacity of any individual needs be determined for a specific task, before expectations are made, else disappointment may be i evitable and avoidable pain caused! Age is not a measure of maturity!

A child may excel in one subject and struggle badly in another. Persistent demand on the child to perform better in the apparently weak subject may result in increasing anxiety, with feelings of worthlessness!

Patience and appropriate support matter a lot, noting that every one develops at different paces! Corn kernels don’t all pop to fullness at once and the same heat that pops some may burn others!

Appearance does not determine ability!

Growth is not development! An adult body may house a child’s brain. Expectations beyond that mental capacity, will therefore be a set up for disppointment with risks of low self esteem, burn out or feelings of worthlessness, on the person subjected to undue pressure and risk of harm to others from frustration! Know your child and their respective capacity in various ways, know your clients, know your companions on life’s journey and resist the urge to place demands in excess of capacity.

Know your child!

Free Spirit

Pharaoh’s Whip

The familiar is often easier to stick with than venturing into the unknown. Inertia may be likened to mental laziness, seeking to remain in a state of rest, or resisting a change in direction even when heading towards disaster!

It is no different in abusive relationships, as noted through the ages! The Israelites resisting deliverance from Pharaoh yet dying physically and in every way under his leadership, the domestic abuse cycle and toxic relationships. Many stay in toxic situations that suppress their potential to bloom and make the world a better place, just for fear of embracing change.

The external force… Inertia maintains status quo, unless an external force acts on it. The required additional force to move forward, may be an intensified fear of loss, an increased appetite for emotional, financial, or other gain, or an increased awareness of doom or death. The pain you feel are lashes from Pharaoh’s whip reminding you the painful situation is meant to push you forward! Staying may result in more lashes to push you out!

What beautiful dream are you giving up on for fear of making change? Determine your why for overcoming inertia! Keep the why constantly before you, a mood board may be helpful. Our trials may sometimes be the additional force required to push us into being free indeed!


Free Spirit

Meekness or Weakness

Keeping quiet when being unfairly treated, is not always weakness but may be part of a plan for a better life or greater good.

A king descends from his throne to live as a pauper. For love of a poor peasant girl, he puts pomp, wealth, power and majesty aside, for love’s sake! It was Incomprehensible!

Enduring shame, humiliation and physical torture till he died, was part of the journey, in the unrelenting pursuit of a relationship with the focus of His love! He did not give up till the price was paid for this relationship! He had a plan and his meekness in enduring so much, was not weakness but meekness!


Focus on greater gain keeps one going through pain. Apparent putting up with abuse and being seemingly foolish may not be weakness but meekness that is required to appropriately address the issue. Thankfully, the King resurrected supernaturally, the peasant girl said “yes” to love and the greatest romance of all time began – Divine Romance! Meekness is not weakness! #divineromance #lovedivine #thekingandI #recklesslove #makeaplan #befreeindeed #eternallife

May the joy of the resurrected King be yours always!

Free Spirit

Keep Calm

Various stressors, inevitably compound the Corona pandemic anxiety: uncertainty about the future, bereavements, financial issues, to name a few. Worsening anxiety will not make anything better and rather do more harm, so it helps to be calm as best one can! How can this be done?

Keep CALM!

Catch the thought that is specific to the distressing feeling. It’s usually a phrase or sentence that keeps repeating itself, troubling the mind and rousing fear. Confront it, it’s a bullying thought!

Address the thought. It needs to be labelled. Is it helpful or dreadful? Allowing unhealthy thoughts to stay is like deliberate self harm. Therefore address the thought so you can post it where it belongs, trash can or treasure chest. This is not denying an issue that may need addressing, like a relationship or financial problem, but recognizing and dealing with detrimental thoughts.

Let the thought go if unhealthy or unhelpful. Write it on a piece of paper and put it in the trash can, or on tissue paper and flush it to go where it belongs. Helpful thoughts should be let in to stay and nurture the mind. It may help to write down replacement thoughts. Trash “I am doomed/rubbish…” with “I need help to deal with this.” Extra help may be required to deal with some harmful thoughts, like talking to a friend or getting professional help to put the distress to an end. Remember, stubborn weed often needs extra help to be uprooted!

Make a plan! Failure to plan is planning to fail!What have I found helpful / unhelpful. Think of healthy strategies that you have found helpful and make a list. Listening to healthy music, talking to a friend, exercise… Exercising these strategies regularly strengthen your mind muscles to deal with unhealthy thoughts, like strengthening the immune system. If this happens again, what will I do?

Doing nothing increases the chance of the bird building its nest, hatching its eggs and breeding more birds over one’s head! #keepCALM

#covid19 #keepcalm #mindandsoul #mentalhealth #befreeindeed #emotionalhealth #anxietymanagement #stressmanagement