The Little Things

It was no wonder the frail looking girl could easily lift the weights. It was an urgent situation; the heavy weights in the store house had accidentally rolled down, following one of the props collapsing, and blocking the opening for deliveries. The situation was not helped by delivery of goods due in a few minutes!

The young men were struggling to lift each bag. It was surprising that “tiny Tina”, as she was called, even dared to try. More shocking was the ease and speed with which she cleared the bags, balancing one per arm like they were light! The guys moved back in awe, giving her room to do what they had struggled to do!

It later came to light that Tina’s hidden skill had been acquired over many years. Helping her dad from her early years, with his building work had got her carrying things with wanting to spend time with him. Evenings were spent helping her dad joyfully and over the years she had carried heavier things regularly and with much more easy, devising strategies to manage heavier weights deemed too much for her.

Life throws challenges! The more one practises carrying what comes one’s way, the stronger the mental and emotional muscles get. Complaining and griping, will not stop life’s challenges. Therefore best to get on with it for bigger challenges will come! Help from others may sometimes be needed to ensure healthy limits are not exceeded!

The seemingly little daily tasks trains the mind for bigger challenges.

Value

At a time when getting married seemed the next “milestone”, dear relatives asking to give enough notice of an event undeclared, I thought it best to check with dad what mattered most to his heart. Would he rather I be unhappily married or happily single?

His choice might seem an obvious one but I knew he would be truthful and not just say what he felt I ought to hear or that which was seemingly right. It was also a family culture that got anxious with female “children” living at home in their late twenties onwards, yet moving out and living alone as an unmarried woman was looked down on by the wider society, attributed to all kinds of condescending ideas.

It thrilled my heart my dad thought differently. Much as he would welcome the news of my being married, grandchildren and all the joys that were bound to come with it, my happiness was of greater worth whatever anyone else may think of societal status. My sense of having value for being me was reinforced, regardless of any shortcoming or seeming inadequacy.

I was and I am glad to be me. My journey in life “successes” and “failures” adding to my story, while I continue happily on “my” journey – glad to be me, just as I am, at the point I am, yet evolving…..with every confidence that with faith and perseverance in my maker and my God, and doing my best at every point in all I do, I will emerge at the end of my journey having fulfilled my purpose for my time on earth. Therein lies my value: being me without the need to be defined by others perceived values whatever they may be!

Do my best

As best I can

At every point

In everything

With what’s at hand

Guarding my heart

And if my best

Is not as best

I’ll keep at it

As best I can

To better be

And stronger grow!

Man’s Greatest Need

There’s said to be in the heart of man

A place that’s made for God alone.

Nought else can take this place for Christ

No matter how much it’s tried.

Fame has been used many a time

Wealth and riches can take its place

The love from spouse or best of friends

Can never ever fit in this space!

Many have sensed there must be more

Than what appears needs fill this void

And so have tried ethereal routes

In hope of filling this deep deep need

There’s just one way to fill this need!

It’s falling in love with the King of Love

But many fear for lies believed

Perceiving Him to be else but Him

He knows you best and loves you most!

No other love for you can stand

All else will pale in the Light of His Love

It’s free for all, too good and true!

He knew we’ld from Him as is

So clad like us in human flesh

He came to earth mingled with men

The KING to us to show His love

Walked in our shoes, felt rain and pain

Shared our frailties, despair and rage

Paid the full price freed us from guilt

All we need do is “Yes” to Him

Yes to Love, the greatest Love!

Love that’s not based on looks or grades

It’s all man needs, and all else pales

The Love of Christ is all in all!

Signals

Traffic signals are easily read worldwide. Of course, there are places when they are disregarded or don’t even exist. Lack of signals is reflected as chaos, with everyone doing as they please, when they please! Disregarding signs, where present, may result in a similar picture or punitive measures by monitoring authorities.

There are signals in life!

Pain, tiredness, sleepiness or difficulty sleeping are signals to take steps for healthier living. Signals may vary from person to person. Knowing one’s warning signs helps prevent physical, mental or emotional breakdown, promoting healthier living.

Know the signals to keep your body, mind and soul healthy. Know your traffic lights!

Peace

World leaders keep putting heads together, in a quest of peace, yet peace does not seem found. Rather wars and riots keep rising up and evil deeds heard more. Nations unite for a think tanks in hope global peace. The answer’s not found in so many forums to asssure the world if peace, whilst evil becomes more evident in places least expected. The world struggles to offer peace with fears of much unrest. There seems no peace but rather more means to numb from pain of ills. Drugs, drinks and pleasure fills, help distract from inside pain, where chaos and distressing feelings take the place of peace. 

Yet there may be peace in the worst storms as many have found to be: in darkest moments on life’s path a calming peace within. 

Not found in drunkenness or revellery, not found is chase of gain. It may be seen in states of lack where love and truth abide. It’s not denial of lack or pain or troubles that prevail. It just cannot be explained it’s peace though troubles may prevail. 

So look no more to any other, besides the Creator of all. It’s guaranteed if one dares to trust, the one who’s promised it. Too oft it’s not asked for, thought too good it couldn’t be true? The only way to find it out is to taste and see if true. There’s nothing to lose for no one else gives guarantee of peace! 

Teenage Tantrums

Terrible twos, teenage issues all spell distressing times for parenting teams. Teenagers often expected to be more mature, may disappointingly wet and soil like infants do. The difference is advanced mess, the mess comes in words and actions as they have grown in ‘many’ ways! 

Managing the teenage mess is no different. Acknowledge what needs be done, admit it stinks and clear it up, just like you would your infant’s poo.  The training needs to follow, to prevent bad history is not repeated. Consequences or measures to prevent a repeat, need therefore be ensured. 

The most important lesson though is hold your peace. Your distress best not be apparent, else it could become a game that gives them thrills – knowingly or unknowingly to them. A peeing infant when being dressed up soon thinks it fun if mummy screams. Possess your soul, remind yourself it is a mess you can manage! 

A helpful tip is a mouthful of water  not swallowed  when the storm is raging, whilst you keep in mind you are in charge! 

A butterfly would like to emerge, a delight to parents! Preceding stages however are not as beautiful: an egg conceived goes through various stages including a fascinating but not necessarily attractive caterpillar. The right atmosphere and nurturing and protective results in the butterfly emerging. Trauma during metamorphosis is bound to result in defects in the butterfly, physical or functional. 

Enjoy every bit of parenting! 

Location, location, location….

Starting point for navigation is location. Second point is destination, following which directions may be given. Using a different location may result in wrong directions as routes may greatly differ for different starting points. 

Life’s journey requires directions to respective destinations for different persons. Wanting to be someone else may be likened to another’s location and embarking on that route may end one in a state of unfulfilment or despair. 

Good qualities should be admired, positive role models are a blessing but a puppy who admires an eagle and attempts to fly high could end up fatally injured whilst the eagle continues to soar. 

Embrace who you are, be thankful for what you have and whatever your hands finds to do, do it the best you can: Your muscles will get stronger and you will move more easily to the next phase of who you are meant to be! 

Stay in lane! 

Free Indeed!

There be many walking free, yet deep within enshackled be. There are yet those imprisoned seen, but truly are free and free indeed!

He that the son hath set free is free indeed!

The judge had ruled the accused was free, the details unknown but it mattered not. The chains were broken, the documents issued, doors wide open to walk out free. In the corner of the prison cell, the young woman cowered grasping her knees, her tangled long hair veiling her bowed head. She seemed not to understand she had been freed!

Guilty but without blame: It mattered not if she was guilty or not. She was entitled to walk out in true liberty. Physical chains had been broken, there was nothing apparent deterring her.  Thoughts of unworthiness, feeling undeserving, unbelief, doubt and fears were heavier chains that none could see, holding her back from walking free!

Chains : Thoughts of the past drag , fear of the future, leaving the familiar are not uncommon setbacks chains. The unhealthy thought of a “better devil” fuel bad choices of living bound, whilst opportunities fade out and dreams are aborted.

 

 

Adaptation

My children often marvel at my handling hot kitchen ware with bare hands. It has come with years of regularly cooking hot meals. I often get away with not being burnt as the contact is for very brief periods. 

Adverse situations may be survivable if only for short periods but not sustainable in the long run. Toxic relationships are similar. 

Victims of abuse are thought to remain in toxic relationships for many reasons: guilt, shame of failed relationship, fear of financial loss or loss of false security, fear of adverse consequences including death and even fear of the unfamiliar! 

The story is told of a toad in a pond with the temperature gradually increased. It kept adjusting and seemingly coping till the temperature was not sustainable to its viability. Adapting to subtle worsening  atmosphere and continuing to adapt to an unfavourable environment, resulted in the toads ultimate death! 

The warning signs are often there, the painful things so hard to bear and hazard lights clear to the sight. Reasons abound to resist change, be it culture or fear of change. Staying in pain for way too long may end in worse than what was feared!

 Resustance to, or fear of making a change may end in irreversible disaster! 

Make the change for healthier living! If need be get help.

Health tip:                                       Challenges should not be avoided, they help develop stronger muscles- mentally, emotionally and spiritually, like weights in a gym. Challenges should however be tolerated within healthy limits. 


Use it or “lose it”

Anger rests in the bosom of fools, says the wise man. Often the question is asked if it is good to be angry. 

Righteous Anger.                             Wickedness would be more prevalent if people did not get angry at wrongdoing. Anger therefore is good in a healthy dose and for an appropriate period, hence the admonition to be angry and not sin!

People are sometimes described as having “lost it” when anger is not positively utilised and rather retained and brewed, till it takes over and spills out, to the angry person’s detriment and not uncommonly to others’ detriment too. 

Wisdom says: 

  • Not to be friends with an angry man so one does not learn his ways. Evil communication corrupts good manners.
  • Do not make a habit of rescuing an angry man! Repeatedly rescuing an angry man prevents him from learning the consequences of his behaviour. There would be more accidents and lives lost, if there were no consequences for jumping red lights. Proverbs 19:19
  • It is a waste of time rescuing an angry man from the consequences of his anger, for you would have to keep doing it. Proverbs 19:19
  • Angry man stirs up strife, but one slow to anger calms strife down. Proverbs 15:8
  • The one who has control over his spirit is greater than the person who conquers a city. Proverbs 16:32

Anger should therefore be used in making positive changes, ensuring positive transformation with anger at wrong doing. Anger should not be let out without the mind processing it for better use besides it being uncontrollably let out.