Peace

World leaders keep putting heads together, in a quest of peace, yet peace does not seem found. Rather wars and riots keep rising up and evil deeds heard more. Nations unite for a think tanks in hope global peace. The answer’s not found in so many forums to asssure the world if peace, whilst evil becomes more evident in places least expected. The world struggles to offer peace with fears of much unrest. There seems no peace but rather more means to numb from pain of ills. Drugs, drinks and pleasure fills, help distract from inside pain, where chaos and distressing feelings take the place of peace. 

Yet there may be peace in the worst storms as many have found to be: in darkest moments on life’s path a calming peace within. 

Not found in drunkenness or revellery, not found is chase of gain. It may be seen in states of lack where love and truth abide. It’s not denial of lack or pain or troubles that prevail. It just cannot be explained it’s peace though troubles may prevail. 

So look no more to any other, besides the Creator of all. It’s guaranteed if one dares to trust, the one who’s promised it. Too oft it’s not asked for, thought too good it couldn’t be true? The only way to find it out is to taste and see if true. There’s nothing to lose for no one else gives guarantee of peace! 

Teenage Tantrums

Terrible twos, teenage issues all spell distressing times for parenting teams. Teenagers often expected to be more mature, may disappointingly wet and soil like infants do. The difference is advanced mess, the mess comes in words and actions as they have grown in ‘many’ ways! 

Managing the teenage mess is no different. Acknowledge what needs be done, admit it stinks and clear it up, just like you would your infant’s poo.  The training needs to follow, to prevent bad history is not repeated. Consequences or measures to prevent a repeat, need therefore be ensured. 

The most important lesson though is hold your peace. Your distress best not be apparent, else it could become a game that gives them thrills – knowingly or unknowingly to them. A peeing infant when being dressed up soon thinks it fun if mummy screams. Possess your soul, remind yourself it is a mess you can manage! 

A helpful tip is a mouthful of water  not swallowed  when the storm is raging, whilst you keep in mind you are in charge! 

A butterfly would like to emerge, a delight to parents! Preceding stages however are not as beautiful: an egg conceived goes through various stages including a fascinating but not necessarily attractive caterpillar. The right atmosphere and nurturing and protective results in the butterfly emerging. Trauma during metamorphosis is bound to result in defects in the butterfly, physical or functional. 

Enjoy every bit of parenting! 

Location, location, location….

Starting point for navigation is location. Second point is destination, following which directions may be given. Using a different location may result in wrong directions as routes may greatly differ for different starting points. 

Life’s journey requires directions to respective destinations for different persons. Wanting to be someone else may be likened to another’s location and embarking on that route may end one in a state of unfulfilment or despair. 

Good qualities should be admired, positive role models are a blessing but a puppy who admires an eagle and attempts to fly high could end up fatally injured whilst the eagle continues to soar. 

Embrace who you are, be thankful for what you have and whatever your hands finds to do, do it the best you can: Your muscles will get stronger and you will move more easily to the next phase of who you are meant to be! 

Stay in lane! 

Free Indeed!

There be many walking free, yet deep within enshackled be. There are yet those imprisoned seen, but truly are free and free indeed!

He that the son hath set free is free indeed!

The judge had ruled the accused was free, the details unknown but it mattered not. The chains were broken, the documents issued, doors wide open to walk out free. In the corner of the prison cell, the young woman cowered grasping her knees, her tangled long hair veiling her bowed head. She seemed not to understand she had been freed!

Guilty but without blame: It mattered not if she was guilty or not. She was entitled to walk out in true liberty. Physical chains had been broken, there was nothing apparent deterring her.  Thoughts of unworthiness, feeling undeserving, unbelief, doubt and fears were heavier chains that none could see, holding her back from walking free!

Chains : Thoughts of the past drag , fear of the future, leaving the familiar are not uncommon setbacks chains. The unhealthy thought of a “better devil” fuel bad choices of living bound, whilst opportunities fade out and dreams are aborted.

 

 

Adaptation

My children often marvel at my handling hot kitchen ware with bare hands. It has come with years of regularly cooking hot meals. I often get away with not being burnt as the contact is for very brief periods. 

Adverse situations may be survivable if only for short periods but not sustainable in the long run. Toxic relationships are similar. 

Victims of abuse are thought to remain in toxic relationships for many reasons: guilt, shame of failed relationship, fear of financial loss or loss of false security, fear of adverse consequences including death and even fear of the unfamiliar! 

The story is told of a toad in a pond with the temperature gradually increased. It kept adjusting and seemingly coping till the temperature was not sustainable to its viability. Adapting to subtle worsening  atmosphere and continuing to adapt to an unfavourable environment, resulted in the toads ultimate death! 

The warning signs are often there, the painful things so hard to bear and hazard lights clear to the sight. Reasons abound to resist change, be it culture or fear of change. Staying in pain for way too long may end in worse than what was feared!

 Resustance to, or fear of making a change may end in irreversible disaster! 

Make the change for healthier living! If need be get help.

Health tip:                                       Challenges should not be avoided, they help develop stronger muscles- mentally, emotionally and spiritually, like weights in a gym. Challenges should however be tolerated within healthy limits. 


Use it or “lose it”

Anger rests in the bosom of fools, says the wise man. Often the question is asked if it is good to be angry. 

Righteous Anger.                             Wickedness would be more prevalent if people did not get angry at wrongdoing. Anger therefore is good in a healthy dose and for an appropriate period, hence the admonition to be angry and not sin!

People are sometimes described as having “lost it” when anger is not positively utilised and rather retained and brewed, till it takes over and spills out, to the angry person’s detriment and not uncommonly to others’ detriment too. 

Wisdom says: 

  • Not to be friends with an angry man so one does not learn his ways. Evil communication corrupts good manners.
  • Do not make a habit of rescuing an angry man! Repeatedly rescuing an angry man prevents him from learning the consequences of his behaviour. There would be more accidents and lives lost, if there were no consequences for jumping red lights. Proverbs 19:19
  • It is a waste of time rescuing an angry man from the consequences of his anger, for you would have to keep doing it. Proverbs 19:19
  • Angry man stirs up strife, but one slow to anger calms strife down. Proverbs 15:8
  • The one who has control over his spirit is greater than the person who conquers a city. Proverbs 16:32

Anger should therefore be used in making positive changes, ensuring positive transformation with anger at wrong doing. Anger should not be let out without the mind processing it for better use besides it being uncontrollably let out. 

The Real Deal

The real deal is not what you see and oftentimes not what is said. There is a need that one must hear and see beyond the apparent. 

Efforts are made to be seem to be what is perceived as desired. Make up, false tones, acts that state else besides what is reality. 

The tortoise shell some see it as, what we project to hide under. Seeming bravery whilst melting under. Excessive covers may hint that it ain’t the real real deal.

An intense covering may help discern that the real deal ain’t what we see. Vulberability and fear hiding under the covering usually perceived.

Better perception then we need, to get to know the real real deal. Else oft we will misjudge many and also ourselves be well deceived. 

Seasons of Life

A harvest is not expected in the season for sowing. It would also be deemed irrational to expect to reap when nothing has been sown. Different crops are sown at different times in different regions. Seasons determine what is best sown and harvest times consequently varies with types of crops. 

It is no different in human lives, there is a time to speak kindly and a time to be angry. There is a time for working hard and a time to rest. Relaxing at a time when hard work is required may result in having nothing when others are reaping a bountiful harvest from their labours. 

To everything there is a season 

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (KJV)

Doing the right thing at the right time has also kept many from regretable situations. Staying focused at work for instance could prevent one from getting into unhealthy conversations, that could destroy valuable relationships. 

Discerning of the seasons in life and engahing in the right thing at the right time is a key to healthy living! 

Harvest 

It would be considered insanity to sow apple seeds and expect to reap bananas! Indeed a person who expresses such thoughts will understandably be deemed to have gone bananas! 

It is common however, that a harvest different different from what is sown is expected: A hostile teacher expecting cheerful students, an angry parent disappointed the children are always irritable.

——————————————————————-If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.

If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.

If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.

If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.

If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.

If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.

If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.

If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.

If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.

If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.

If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.

If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.

If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.

If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.

If children live with fairness, they learn justice.

If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.

If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.

If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Copyright © 1972 by Dorothy Law Nolte

Prayer Inertia

Listening to Prayer Storm on you tube today helped deal with worrying thoughts on reluctance to prayer. Everything seems easier to do when there’s an urge to pray. 
My term for this is prayer inertia. Discipline is required to advance in any worthwhile activity and inertia need firstbbe overcome whatever the magnitude. 
The joy of what lies beyond motivates to persevere till momentum is gathered and one begins to soar. It brings to mind activities one may not sometimes be keen on, reluctantly attends and later feels excited and thankful for going. The decision to do what’s right and stay with it is required to reap the benefits of prayer. 
Once inertia is overcome the ride becomes increasingly less challenging, like a plane gathering momentum then begins to soar. Persevering in the place of prayer, connecting with the deeper wells within is rewarding, but requires overcoming inertia to break through to the refreshing depths.

May we be strengthened to pray🙏🏾