The Real Examination

Life challenges can be draining, the current challenge usually most distressing. Once it passes may not seem as stressful for through each stress emotional and mental muscles are often better strengthened and resilience toughened.

The real examination is therefore not the hurdles but how one translates the impact of stresses on day to day living. The real examination is not the mock, like gym exercises determine how fast you run in danger: the real examination is the unexpected dangers we face.

Promotion

The real examination once passed qualifies us for greater heights in the journey of life and each examination then a mock for the next real thing. So, it’s best to face life’s stresses with determination to sail through healthily for the next examination!

Healthy, wealthy, wise!

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Success

Success has been defined as the meeting of preparation and opportunity.

Life gives what we demand of it. Of course, time and chance happens to all in varying degrees, and adversity comes without invitation. Opportunities however abound and there are processes in place to attain great heights. Attempting to attain a goal without following due processes, is a futile exercise. A football player will not exercise tennis strategies to be a top player. There may be some mutual skills, like discipline, but each game as it’s own unique rules to be a skilled player. The training path of a cardiac surgeon is different from that of a General Practitioner. To excel in a field it’s best to play by the rules!

Young teenage boys dreaming of expensive cars when they grow up and not putting in any effort in education or a vocation , are by default expecting to drink orange juice by dreaming of an orange without doing anything. Demand needs to be placed on life like pressure on the orange to get the juice out! Wanting juice without squeezing is wanting life to give what they are not willing to pay the price for! If by chance they get what they want without the due process, the ability to keep it is bound to be lacking and they lose the gift. Guess who gets more juice from life’s oranges? The lookers, average performers or those who give their best?

BE PREPARED!

Fulfilment in life requires preparation for desired attainments. Desiring the goal of a certain income bracket, requires finding out what it takes to earn such income. It could be new skills, new qualifications, new association or relocation.

AVOID SHORTCUTS

Disappointment sets in when a desire is not fulfilled, or a goal not attained. It is difficult for life to position us for a role we are ill fitted for. Everything may be in place and just one attribute results in difficulty in appointing one for the desired life role. Preparation in every way as best as possible is therefore vital in avoiding disappointment in life. Don’t give into cutting corners, it will later come to bite as what is sown will be reaped!

DO YOUR BEST AND LEAVE THE REST

Having done one’s best it may appear frustrating not to have a goal met. No one can do more than their best so do your best and leave the rest, making the most of the current situation till opportunity comes knocking again and finding you prepared Success happens!

STRESS

Stress results when demand exceeds supply or availability. It may present in any area where any form of resource or substance is in more demand than is available or may be supplied. Stress could be financial, emotional, physical, mental or social. Some areas are more recognised as prone to stress than others.

Stress in one area easily reflects in other areas of an individual’s life. Family needs for instance, in excess of income, easily results in financial stress. The consequent lack of needs may then soon cause relationship difficulties in the home with the normal request for healthy interaction being too weighty for breadwinner who already is struggling with the pains of stretched income. Mental stress soon sets in with trying to make sense of the difficulties and devising solutions. Emotional stress often soon follows, with the varying unanticipated demands on mental resources and soon this may reflect in ill health, physically and mentally.

It is best therefore to manage any signs of strain in any area of life as soon as possible, before complications sets in with the stress rippling into other close areas, and gradually to a larger zone.

Self awareness is a key tool in stress management as individual stress markers vary widely. Knowing stress indicators for those around us at home, work or elsewhere helps prevent stress getting worse by nipping it in the bud.

Stress less else you’ll rest less!

Stress indicators may include loss of appetite, irritability, excessive eating, resorting to substance misuse, insomnia, social isolation and seemingly benign activities like unnecessary shopping ( ?retail therapy)

Health Check:  What areas of life is demanding more than one feels capable of? (social activities, relationships, career pursuit, family care…………)

It may be healthy to refrain, retreat or rest for a while.

Address the signs of stress you see, else it may grow fast and destroy lots!!

STRESS LESS TODAY for A BETTER TOMORROW!

The Little Things

It was no wonder the frail looking girl could easily lift the weights. It was an urgent situation; the heavy weights in the store house had accidentally rolled down, following one of the props collapsing, and blocking the opening for deliveries. The situation was not helped by delivery of goods due in a few minutes!

The young men were struggling to lift each bag. It was surprising that “tiny Tina”, as she was called, even dared to try. More shocking was the ease and speed with which she cleared the bags, balancing one per arm like they were light! The guys moved back in awe, giving her room to do what they had struggled to do!

It later came to light that Tina’s hidden skill had been acquired over many years. Helping her dad from her early years, with his building work had got her carrying things with wanting to spend time with him. Evenings were spent helping her dad joyfully and over the years she had carried heavier things regularly and with much more easy, devising strategies to manage heavier weights deemed too much for her.

Life throws challenges! The more one practises carrying what comes one’s way, the stronger the mental and emotional muscles get. Complaining and griping, will not stop life’s challenges. Therefore best to get on with it for bigger challenges will come! Help from others may sometimes be needed to ensure healthy limits are not exceeded!

The seemingly little daily tasks trains the mind for bigger challenges.

Value

At a time when getting married seemed the next “milestone”, dear relatives asking to give enough notice of an event undeclared, I thought it best to check with dad what mattered most to his heart. Would he rather I be unhappily married or happily single?

His choice might seem an obvious one but I knew he would be truthful and not just say what he felt I ought to hear or that which was seemingly right. It was also a family culture that got anxious with female “children” living at home in their late twenties onwards, yet moving out and living alone as an unmarried woman was looked down on by the wider society, attributed to all kinds of condescending ideas.

It thrilled my heart my dad thought differently. Much as he would welcome the news of my being married, grandchildren and all the joys that were bound to come with it, my happiness was of greater worth whatever anyone else may think of societal status. My sense of having value for being me was reinforced, regardless of any shortcoming or seeming inadequacy.

I was and I am glad to be me. My journey in life “successes” and “failures” adding to my story, while I continue happily on “my” journey – glad to be me, just as I am, at the point I am, yet evolving…..with every confidence that with faith and perseverance in my maker and my God, and doing my best at every point in all I do, I will emerge at the end of my journey having fulfilled my purpose for my time on earth. Therein lies my value: being me without the need to be defined by others perceived values whatever they may be!

Do my best

As best I can

At every point

In everything

With what’s at hand

Guarding my heart

And if my best

Is not as best

I’ll keep at it

As best I can

To better be

And stronger grow!

Man’s Greatest Need

There’s said to be in the heart of man

A place that’s made for God alone.

Nought else can take this place for Christ

No matter how much it’s tried.

Fame has been used many a time

Wealth and riches can take its place

The love from spouse or best of friends

Can never ever fit in this space!

Many have sensed there must be more

Than what appears needs fill this void

And so have tried ethereal routes

In hope of filling this deep deep need

There’s just one way to fill this need!

It’s falling in love with the King of Love

But many fear for lies believed

Perceiving Him to be else but Him

He knows you best and loves you most!

No other love for you can stand

All else will pale in the Light of His Love

It’s free for all, too good and true!

He knew we’ld from Him as is

So clad like us in human flesh

He came to earth mingled with men

The KING to us to show His love

Walked in our shoes, felt rain and pain

Shared our frailties, despair and rage

Paid the full price freed us from guilt

All we need do is “Yes” to Him

Yes to Love, the greatest Love!

Love that’s not based on looks or grades

It’s all man needs, and all else pales

The Love of Christ is all in all!

Signals

Traffic signals are easily read worldwide. Of course, there are places when they are disregarded or don’t even exist. Lack of signals is reflected as chaos, with everyone doing as they please, when they please! Disregarding signs, where present, may result in a similar picture or punitive measures by monitoring authorities.

There are signals in life!

Pain, tiredness, sleepiness or difficulty sleeping are signals to take steps for healthier living. Signals may vary from person to person. Knowing one’s warning signs helps prevent physical, mental or emotional breakdown, promoting healthier living.

Know the signals to keep your body, mind and soul healthy. Know your traffic lights!