What is Love?

Some say a feeling, others say it’s a verb. Love has also been described as both a noun and a verb. I considered it a decision, but that’s just one of its actions. Love is a lot more than is imagined or perceived.


Personified, it is better understood, like wisdom, fear, anger and various entities that the manifestation is often mixed up with the true identity.

Love is a Spirit. Forceful, gentle, transforming and ruling over all other spirits. It presents in many ways in different situation, like the same person with different roles based on the setting. A mother can be an employee, a daughter, a wife, a manager, an employer, her presentation changing from kitchen to office, yet still the same. Forceful in the face of injustice, gentle to a hurting child, loyal to a friend, faithful wife angered by infertility yet forgiving. Same woman, varying emotional manifestation.


Is Love an emotion?                                              I dare to confidently say “No”, for that would then expect Love’s presentation to be restricted! Love is a Spirit, Love is a person. The unseen Person of whom we all have a part. Just as we are Spirit beings living in a body with mental faculties that help us think and feel. Our real identity being Spiritual, we all have a part of love in us! A part suppressive but not quenchable, hence the hint of softness in a man deemed most cruel, for many waters cannot quench love!

You’ve got legs,                                                you choose to walk with them!               You’ve got Love,                                               you choose to walk in Love or not!            Stay fuelled by the Spirit of Love in you!❤️




Food for thought

Kirsty was glad to be home after a hard day’s work. Exhausted she heaved a sigh of relief, as she slid her shoes off eyeing a comfortable corner on the settee. She prided herself on a sense of progress, glad she had been able to resolve some major issues for her employers. She winked in self admiration as she threw her head back to a comfortable pose on the sofa. It wasn’t till she woke up hours later, to the smell of wine and a wet top, that she realized she had fallen off to sleep with her drink in her hand. 

Her thoughts drifted back to her week at work. She thought of the joy she derived from the challenges at work. She smiled to herself as she thought she was not one for passing time at work. “yes” she thought, there was a fulfillment she derived from taking on challenges in the work place. It had also been well worth it! She had been rewarded with pay rises and annual bonuses, supported by her employer in her pursuit of personal development. 

It was all going good, more heights to attain. Her thoughts seemed to slide down from to the reality of the part of the week she often dreaded – coming home on Fridays!! She had once thought the lonely weekends was a result of not having a man in her life, but then realized her married and partnered friends shared this horrible feeling of an emptiness on the inside. It was a horrible feeling that seemed difficult to fill!! She thought of work again and identified it as a distraction that helped at least for most of the week. What was it she desperately, and seemingly unknown to her did she seek to be distracted from? Kirsty was desperate for answers- yet fearful.
Who am I? what is the purpose of my existence? How did I come to be besides the explanation of my biological being? A mass of cells surely can’t think? She was convinced there was much more to her than her physical existence. How can I know what or all I am about? She suddenly feared she may be losing it – these seemed to be crazy thoughts. She dreaded she may be experiencing early signs of insanity yet wondered if she was running from confronting the truth about life. “I really must stop” she concluded. She propped herself into a sitting position uncertain what to do for the rest of the night, with being so alert and no more signs of sleep. She poured herself another glass of wine, “I might as well!”
It was nice to be admired. So many of her colleagues had not hesitated to let her know how they wished they had her confidence. If only they knew it was all a facade. She dressed up to the image she perceived was required for the work place. she was confident about her skills in the managerial role, but that had been developed over time. She wished she could be happy, satisfied, like herself in every way….Her thoughts were suddenly interrupted by her James, “how was your weekend?” She found herself struggling to respond, this wasn’t Kirsty, no what’s the matter with me? Her voice finally came, “Oh, er, it went so fast, but ok”. “you obviously had a nice time, never a dull moment with you Kirsty.” The distressing thought rumblec again in Kirsty’s heart, ” who exactly am I?”

Wealth is Health! 

Wilt thou set thine eyes upon that which is not? For riches certainly build themselves wings; they fly away as an eagle toward the heavens. Proverbs 23:5
Walking in the principles of wealth creation has been described as an exciting journey, with valuable lessons, sometimes painful, that empower in making wiser decisions. 

A simple way to remember 5 principles described in “The Richest Man in Babylon” is the discipline of SMILE

1. Save at least 10% of your income. It may help to reflect on how much has come in in the past 5years and how much has been saved from it. Ouch! Thinking of the savings from the past year’s income may just be as painful….hmmm. Everyone else gets paid besides the one who earned it! Pay yourself first , SAVE! 

2. Make your money (savings) work for you. Put your money to work and let it serve you! This is multiplying your savings to get the most from it! 

3. Invest in what you know! Don’t rely on someone else’s knowledge without your understanding what your money is being put into! Many fingers have been burnt and valuable assets lost by relying solely on a “good friend’s” knowledge in an area of investment. Know your own tools. 

4. Learn from wise men/ experts to invest. This helps to protect your money.

5. Emotions can be misleading! Easy come, easy go! If it’s too good to be true, It probably is!

Money management is more important than having money! Understanding the principles of money is an important part of being wealthy! Wealth is being healthy spiritually, physically and mentally, with the manifestation of holistic health including generating valuable assets and healthy relationships.

Having money is not being wealthy! A healthy read is “Money won’t make you rich” by Sunday Adelaja. 

It is health that is real wealth, and not pieces of gold and silver. ~ Mahatma Gandhi

Wealth is Health! 


Responsible stems from the word “response”, and means having the ability to make a response. It does not however state if the response made is healthy or detrimental. It is generally assumed that the response is sound, whenever a person is assessed as responsible.

This brings to mind the cockroach theory, a story forwarded to me with the author unknown:

Sent as received:

Have you heard of the…

**** Cockroach management Theory?

I just did and thought it worthy to share with you☺

“A beautiful speech by *Sundar Pichai – an IIT-MIT Alumnus now Google boss.

*The cockroach management theory for self development*

At a restaurant, a cockroach suddenly flew from somewhere and sat on a lady. She started screaming out of fear. With a panic stricken face and trembling voice, she started jumping, with both her hands desperately trying to get rid of the cockroach.

Her reaction was contagious, as everyone in her group also got panicky. The lady finally managed to push the cockroach away but …it landed on another lady in the group.

Now, it was the turn of the other lady in the group to continue the drama. The waiter rushed forward to their rescue. In the relay of throwing, the cockroach next fell upon the waiter.

The waiter stood firm, composed himself and observed the behavior of the cockroach on his shirt. When he was confident enough, he grabbed it with his fingers and threw it out of the restaurant.

Sipping my coffee and watching the amusement, the antenna of my mind picked up a few thoughts and started wondering, was the cockroach responsible for their histrionic behavior?

If so, then why was the waiter not disturbed? He handled it near to perfection, without any chaos.

*_It is not the cockroach, but the inability of those people to handle the disturbance caused by the cockroach, that disturbed the ladies._*

*I realized that, it is not the shouting of my father or my boss or my wife that disturbs me, but it’s my inability to handle the disturbances caused by their shouting that disturbs me.*

It’s not the traffic jams on the road that disturbs me, but my inability to handle the disturbance caused by the traffic jam that disturbs me.

*More than the problem, it’s my reaction to the problem that creates chaos in my life.*

Lessons learnt from the story:

*I understood, I should not react in life.*

*I should always respond*

The women reacted, whereas the waiter responded.

Reactions are always instinctive whereas responses are always well thought of.

A beautiful way to understand…………LIFE.

A Person who is HAPPY is happy not because Everything is RIGHT in his Life..

*He is HAPPY because his Attitude towards Everything in his Life is Right..!!

*RESPOND TO ISSUES DON’T ~REACT~*and keep winning..👌

End of sent mail.


Fish move in schools, cattle go as herds, ants as army troops, humans do the same. Teenagers are not peculiar, in this longing for acceptance and going with the flow, with a sense of not belonging, judged by not having trendy shoes or clothes.

Each human being is however unique, with a specific purpose to be on earth, like a piece of jigsaw that can’t take the place of another! Fulfilment is finding that role and living it to the fullest! A fulfilled life is not following the herd, not being average!



Being average is not optimising one’s potential. Daring to be different is stretching to greater heights!

Don’t settle for less, aim for God’s best, being all you have been created to be! No one can do that which only you can do!

One Life!

This is the excerpt for your very first post.

The promise of abundant life has always been my desire to experience in every way. As the years have progressed, I have regularly reflected on John 10:10 and wondered why my experiences did not appear to line up with “abundance”. Surely I must be doing something not quite right, having needs whilst longing to give so much more to others of apparently limited resources?

This thought has triggered my desire for a pursuit of the real thing, the truth! I am desperate to know the truth for a full life, fulfillment in every way, as I have also found out in my life and others too that erroneous beliefs hold people captive in every ally – financially, spiritually, mentally, physically ……

And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall set you free! My dream is to be free, fully filled with truth that I can generously share with others and like a ripple effect set people free in our world!

I have been searching, I am still learning………sharing my discoveries and hoping  to learn from others too………….


Hear it !!!

This is the excerpt for a placeholder post.

Faith or doubt is built by what one hears. A child who is frequently criticized inevitably begins to entertain thoughts of low self esteem and his self confidence gradually gets eroded. The same applies to faith.  Hearing words of encouragement and optimism, builds faith. When there is a need for the heart to be encouraged there will not always be someone present to utter the much needed relevant words. Like David therefore, we need to encourage ourselves in the Lord.


David and his 600 followers had lost their possessions, their homes burnt down, and worse, their wives and children had been taken captives! 1Samuel 30:1-31. These men were therefore not in the frame of mind to encourage David, their leader, and rather felt David was better of dead. These men needed encouragement themselves! They had always looked up to David, who had now seemingly put them in a position of hopelessness and despair, to the point that they considered stoning him, 1Samuel 30:4, resulting in David being “greatly distressed”. 1Samuel 30:6.


1Samuel 30 vs 6 “…and David encouraged himself in the Lord, his God.”  When David took his focus off the situation and focused on God, he was able to draw strength from the encouragement he received. He was subsequently able to think of the next best step which was seeking direction rather than be guided by emotion. He chose not to lean on his own understanding and ompulsively pursue his enemies. He acknowledged God in the situation, and God confirming His promise in Proverbs3:5-6, directed his paths to astounding victory. The joy of the Lord gave him strength and he went from a state of he and his men having “no power to weep” (vs4) to pursuing the troop that had raided them.

“My God!”

It is also worth noting that David encouraged himself in the Lord “his God”, not his team’s God or the God of his fathers. David knew God from his own personal relationship and consequent experiences with God. One may enjoy good christian fellowship with friends and family but in challenging times the depth of the individual relationship with God is what will determine how one survives the storm, come out better or badly burnt. Prov. 24:10 David had learnt how to draw strength from God so even in a time of great distress he could easily turn to “his God”.

Say it loud, say it strong!!

When there is no one around to say the words you need to hear, pick out the words relevant to your situation and speak it out loud so you can hear it clear. God’s words are spirit and life John 6:63, so hear it and let it every thing around you hear it, causing new life to spring forth. The words of life by which the worlds were framed (Hebrews 1:2, John 1:3  ) is the same life giving word that is to able to give us abundant life here on earth and save our souls throughout all eternity. 

The medicine for diabetes differs from that for epilepsy, the same way the scriptures for healing differ from the scriptures for healthy relationships. Seek and you will find the relevant scripture for every situation where life is desired, then speak the life as you declare the spirit and the life in the Word of God.

Joshua 1:8 encourages us not to let the word of God depart out of our mouth, and to meditate on it day and night following which we are assured of good success, for God’s blessing maketh rich and addeth no sorrow.

Psalm 91:2 The psalm that declares protection. David declared “I will say of the Lord, He is my refuge and my fortress, my God in whom I will trust”.

Psalm 142:5 “I cried unto thee, O Lord: I said thou art my refuge and my portion in the land of the living.”

Choose what you hear
Speak what you need
Say it loud, Say it clear
Speak words of Life

from God’s holy word!
It brings to life all that’s required  for
The abundant living that Christ has given!