Stress results when demand exceeds supply or availability. It may present in any area where any form of resource or substance is in more demand than is available or may be supplied. Stress could be financial, emotional, physical, mental or social. Some areas are more recognised as prone to stress than others.

Stress in one area easily reflects in other areas of an individual’s life. Family needs for instance, in excess of income, easily results in financial stress. The consequent lack of needs may then soon cause relationship difficulties in the home with the normal request for healthy interaction being too weighty for breadwinner who already is struggling with the pains of stretched income. Mental stress soon sets in with trying to make sense of the difficulties and devising solutions. Emotional stress often soon follows, with the varying unanticipated demands on mental resources and soon this may reflect in ill health, physically and mentally.

It is best therefore to manage any signs of strain in any area of life as soon as possible, before complications sets in with the stress rippling into other close areas, and gradually to a larger zone.

Self awareness is a key tool in stress management as individual stress markers vary widely. Knowing stress indicators for those around us at home, work or elsewhere helps prevent stress getting worse by nipping it in the bud.

Stress less else you’ll rest less!

Stress indicators may include loss of appetite, irritability, excessive eating, resorting to substance misuse, insomnia, social isolation and seemingly benign activities like unnecessary shopping ( ?retail therapy)

Health Check:  What areas of life is demanding more than one feels capable of? (social activities, relationships, career pursuit, family care…………)

It may be healthy to refrain, retreat or rest for a while.

Address the signs of stress you see, else it may grow fast and destroy lots!!


The Little Things

It was no wonder the frail looking girl could easily lift the weights. It was an urgent situation; the heavy weights in the store house had accidentally rolled down, following one of the props collapsing, and blocking the opening for deliveries. The situation was not helped by delivery of goods due in a few minutes!

The young men were struggling to lift each bag. It was surprising that “tiny Tina”, as she was called, even dared to try. More shocking was the ease and speed with which she cleared the bags, balancing one per arm like they were light! The guys moved back in awe, giving her room to do what they had struggled to do!

It later came to light that Tina’s hidden skill had been acquired over many years. Helping her dad from her early years, with his building work had got her carrying things with wanting to spend time with him. Evenings were spent helping her dad joyfully and over the years she had carried heavier things regularly and with much more easy, devising strategies to manage heavier weights deemed too much for her.

Life throws challenges! The more one practises carrying what comes one’s way, the stronger the mental and emotional muscles get. Complaining and griping, will not stop life’s challenges. Therefore best to get on with it for bigger challenges will come! Help from others may sometimes be needed to ensure healthy limits are not exceeded!

The seemingly little daily tasks trains the mind for bigger challenges.


At a time when getting married seemed the next “milestone”, dear relatives asking to give enough notice of an event undeclared, I thought it best to check with dad what mattered most to his heart. Would he rather I be unhappily married or happily single?

His choice might seem an obvious one but I knew he would be truthful and not just say what he felt I ought to hear or that which was seemingly right. It was also a family culture that got anxious with female “children” living at home in their late twenties onwards, yet moving out and living alone as an unmarried woman was looked down on by the wider society, attributed to all kinds of condescending ideas.

It thrilled my heart my dad thought differently. Much as he would welcome the news of my being married, grandchildren and all the joys that were bound to come with it, my happiness was of greater worth whatever anyone else may think of societal status. My sense of having value for being me was reinforced, regardless of any shortcoming or seeming inadequacy.

I was and I am glad to be me. My journey in life “successes” and “failures” adding to my story, while I continue happily on “my” journey – glad to be me, just as I am, at the point I am, yet evolving…..with every confidence that with faith and perseverance in my maker and my God, and doing my best at every point in all I do, I will emerge at the end of my journey having fulfilled my purpose for my time on earth. Therein lies my value: being me without the need to be defined by others perceived values whatever they may be!

Do my best

As best I can

At every point

In everything

With what’s at hand

Guarding my heart

And if my best

Is not as best

I’ll keep at it

As best I can

To better be

And stronger grow!

Man’s Greatest Need

There’s said to be in the heart of man

A place that’s made for God alone.

Nought else can take this place for Christ

No matter how much it’s tried.

Fame has been used many a time

Wealth and riches can take its place

The love from spouse or best of friends

Can never ever fit in this space!

Many have sensed there must be more

Than what appears needs fill this void

And so have tried ethereal routes

In hope of filling this deep deep need

There’s just one way to fill this need!

It’s falling in love with the King of Love

But many fear for lies believed

Perceiving Him to be else but Him

He knows you best and loves you most!

No other love for you can stand

All else will pale in the Light of His Love

It’s free for all, too good and true!

He knew we’ld from Him as is

So clad like us in human flesh

He came to earth mingled with men

The KING to us to show His love

Walked in our shoes, felt rain and pain

Shared our frailties, despair and rage

Paid the full price freed us from guilt

All we need do is “Yes” to Him

Yes to Love, the greatest Love!

Love that’s not based on looks or grades

It’s all man needs, and all else pales

The Love of Christ is all in all!


Traffic signals are easily read worldwide. Of course, there are places when they are disregarded or don’t even exist. Lack of signals is reflected as chaos, with everyone doing as they please, when they please! Disregarding signs, where present, may result in a similar picture or punitive measures by monitoring authorities.

There are signals in life!

Pain, tiredness, sleepiness or difficulty sleeping are signals to take steps for healthier living. Signals may vary from person to person. Knowing one’s warning signs helps prevent physical, mental or emotional breakdown, promoting healthier living.

Know the signals to keep your body, mind and soul healthy. Know your traffic lights!


I recall a friend saying his shoes served him well because he took exceptional care of them. Shoes? Well, he also claimed that was why his shoes lasted long and “serve” him well.

His shoes indeed always stood out! I once had the opportunity to watch him put away his shoes, when he explained they were always cleaned and polished whenever he returned home for the day, after which he would store them away with shoe shapers and covered up.

Personally I thought that was too much time to invest in shoe servicing! The time and energy he invested though, reflected in the way his shoes always stood out in a crowd. It may well impress potential employers to pick him out.

I have recalled this many times over the years, with thoughts of how one uses things determining what one gets out of it. Investing quality time and energy in relationships for instance helps build long lasting relationships. Likewise abnormal use, that is ab-using anything: using a thing, service or situation for anything other than that which it is designed for results in not getting the best of it or even causing it to be detrimental.

Best to know the purpose for which anything is designed, use it respectfully and not abuse it so it serves one well!

Peace keeping

There is a cost to everything and something gives for else to root. Sometimes seen and at times unseen, peace keeping too has a price.

The price is higher the more the chaos

or strain that’s on for far too long.

As best one can it helps to calm

without one being at risk of harm.

It’s therefore wise to weigh the cost

of seeking peace and one’s wellbeing. Kindly stretching to help others

should not result in broken bones.


World leaders keep putting heads together, in a quest of peace, yet peace does not seem found. Rather wars and riots keep rising up and evil deeds heard more. Nations unite for a think tanks in hope global peace. The answer’s not found in so many forums to asssure the world if peace, whilst evil becomes more evident in places least expected. The world struggles to offer peace with fears of much unrest. There seems no peace but rather more means to numb from pain of ills. Drugs, drinks and pleasure fills, help distract from inside pain, where chaos and distressing feelings take the place of peace. 

Yet there may be peace in the worst storms as many have found to be: in darkest moments on life’s path a calming peace within. 

Not found in drunkenness or revellery, not found is chase of gain. It may be seen in states of lack where love and truth abide. It’s not denial of lack or pain or troubles that prevail. It just cannot be explained it’s peace though troubles may prevail. 

So look no more to any other, besides the Creator of all. It’s guaranteed if one dares to trust, the one who’s promised it. Too oft it’s not asked for, thought too good it couldn’t be true? The only way to find it out is to taste and see if true. There’s nothing to lose for no one else gives guarantee of peace! 


An infection is contamination by organism(s) that reside in the body or from outside the body. An infection does not always present with symptoms, when it is deemed sub clinical. At other times symptoms are obvious and may result in discomfort, distress or various degrees of impairment in usual functioning.Thoughts, likewise, may show no symptoms of being potentially harmful when well managed. At other times however, they may cause irreversible damage, if allowed into zones they ought not be, like an untreated infection, with the infecting organism(s) going into zones they would normally not be found. 

It is therefore needful to guard what thoughts are processed by the mind. A bit of concern about the future would help put plans in place as best as possible, towards a happier and healthier future. Excessive worry however would easily result in not being able to focus on taking the right steps towards what is desired, 

Consistent effort in holding onto healthy thoughts and managing infectious thoughts, is needful for a healthy mind and a healthy life!

Healthy thoughts enhances healthy living! 

The Truth

The change in routine with holiday joys resulted in the children disputing what day of the week it was. I was initially certain it was wednesday but my son’s certainty roused doubts, and I wondered if I had got it wrong? One thing was certain the day or date was not going to change whatever anyone chooses to believe.

It brought to mind the certainty of truth in the alleged “post truth” era. A dog will not change into a duck whatever anyone chooses to belief, regardless of the person’s qualification or reputation. A Professor may choose to profess lies for whatever reason, whoever swallows the deceit will suffer the detriment. The onus therefore lies on every individual to seek the truth and hold fast to it, whatever challenge may come.

Believing a sheep to be a lion because of some mass of muddy shaggy wool round its neck, will not make it safe to stay with it in a pen! It is a matter of time before disaster is likely to set in?? Always best to seek the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth!