The Power of Words

pexels-photo-69096.jpegHarsh words on tender hearts go much farther than one may see or think. Anger is stirred with cruel words or unkind words said by loved ones.

A child’s tender heart longing for care, is easily scarred by angry words. Scar after scar, callous is formed and insensitivity then results. The cause is forgotten while the scarring process continues and symptoms later become a concern: fears of threatening behaviour and angry acts, worsening aggression and violence, children going missing also happens as they seek warmth with home being cold.

A soft answer turneth away wrath but grievous words stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 Kind words cost nothing! Discipline can be firm and kind when done in love rather than in wrath. Aggression easily stirs up more aggression, like harsh words stirring up anger. Sometimes the recipient is often silent whilst bitterness grows with hope of respite away from the abuser at the earliest chance! Kind words turns anger away and harsh words rouses anger.

Angry children become angry adults. Angry adults are bound to raise angry children – A fruit does not fall far from its tree. Angry people stir anger in others, young and old, stirring up more evil works in our world. Let’s help to break the force of anger that threatens peace by speaking kind words.

Is Old Roger dead?

The likely instant thought that may come to mind under an apple tree, if suddenly hit on the head, is that an apple’s dropped from the tree and ouchingly landed on one’s skull. The last thing one would expect is a dead person long gone, rising to give a knock on the head in protest of picking apples over his grave. Old Roger was unhappy with the old woman picking “his” apples, even though he was not legitimately meant to be on earth. The question really is “was old Roger really dead?”

Warning signs of evil lurking are often, if not always present. Disregarding the signs, naïveté and lack of discretion are some of the factors that result in complications later on in the journey of life. The old woman was likely completely off guard, enticed by the ripe apples and less aware of signs that old Roger was ready to jump, after all it was a burial site…..the knock on her head from old Roger soon told her the truth: old Roger ain’t dead!

Ghosts come up in different forms and a lot more happens in the unseen world than in the seen. This may be explained by intense distressing feelings manifesting in physical symptoms, like people going into shock on hearing bad news. A friend or acquaintance with unresolved issues unexpectedly showing surprising unkindness, abusive behaviour or unexplainable cruelty: Old Roger rising up within in protest of his apples being picked.

Buyer beware! Lush looking, ripe apples may draw one to sites where evil may seem to have been eradicated, like getting into a relationship; business, marital, employment or any other form with nice flags flying. It’s always best to check if old Roger is dead, else history may repeat itself?

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” George Santayana

Old habits die hard! Anger, unkindness, fear, controlling behaviour, manipulation, and the like, are traits that can be so entrenched and difficult to uproot. Unresolved trauma will sprout its again and again symptoms given similar conditions. What killed old Roger? Was it the consequences of his aggression? Had he been unkind and dealt with by another soldier? Was his anger dealt with before he was buried? Preliminary checks before going for ripe apples: Why is the post vacant? Why did the previous employee leave? Why has a new management taken over? It’s best to provoke old Roger whilst you can run quickly than be in a vulnerable position or worse still fatal state from Old Roger’s knock on the head. The old woman was happily picking apples when old Roger “jumped”, obviously having more life than the dear old lady. It wasn’t mentioned if the old woman survived the head knock??

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Copied (author unknown):

Old Roger is dead and gone to his grave, H’m ha ! gone to his grave.

They planted an apple tree over his head, H’m ha! over his head.

The apples were ripe and ready to fall, H’m ha ! ready to fall.

There came an old woman and picked them all up, H’m ha! picked them all up.

Old Roger jumped up and gave her a knock, H’m ha! gave her a knock.

Which made the old woman go hippity hop, H’m ha! hippity hop!

—————————————————————–A prudent man foreseeth the evil, and hideth himself; but the simple pass on, and are punished. Proverbs 27:12

How to find treasure

Find a good thing, there are plenty around: relationships, job opportunities, skills, a good idea and so much more.

Nurture a good thing and you’ll see it grow, it may be slow, it may not glow, but it will add value to you more and more (if nurtured).Find a good thing and if you treat it like trash, it’ll do you much harm whilst others are blessed by the same.

So if you find a good thing, nurture it and you’ll see it grow, then over time it’ll have added so much value- you’ll be treasure!

Seeds of treasure may not glitter like gold!

Respect

Respect cannot be forcibly obtained, it is earned. Earning respect begins with respecting oneself, as self respect automates respect for others.

Every human being deserves respect, young and old, rich and poor regardless of any difference, religion or gender, race or state.

A humble reminder is “dust to dust, ashes to ashes”, the final state of all men. Why then dare any man consider himself better than another?

Respect begets respect!

Children are deemed in some cultural settings not to be “respected” and rather expected to “respect” adults and those in authority. The meaning of respect is clearly misunderstood in such scenarios. Respect means recognising and regarding. Like most words a spectrum that extends to admiration and highly esteeming.

Recognising another person is acknowledging their humanity, strengths and weaknesses included and where there may be undesirable characteristics or differences, the person is still regarded whilst the undesirable part appropriately addressed. A person is therefore not disrespected or abused because no matter how annoying the behaviour or qualities, respect gives due regard for the individual. The behaviour may not apparently qualify the person for respect but self respect enables one to exercise discernment and separate undesirable qualities from a person and treat them in a spirit of love.

Love may sometimes need to be tough and showing respect may require firmness, sternness or severing a relationship.

Respect all men then you may expect respect!