“It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it”. This is sometimes the response from a person offended. The words said are seemingly right, but the tone heard is upsetting. Compliments may be presented in condescending tones, like nice gifts in dirty wrapping paper.
Children are known to be very perceptive of non-verbal communication and easily pick up on a lot of what is not said. It is no wonder that anger in a child can be traced to angry communication from loving parents/ caters, who themselves speak the language of anger having been exposed to it from their childhood.
It takes effort to learn a new language, usually more challenging the older one grows. The language of kindness will take time to learn after speaking harshness for decades. Where there is a will there is a way! Choices carry benefits / losses. The rewarding culture of love speaks the language of life: kindness, wholeness, encouragement in words and tone.
Let’s choose life, love and laughter and speak its language in every way!